Self-Love vs. Holy Love
Self-Love
Is motivated towards self-advantage in thought, word, and deed
Sees only others' faults, not his own. Considers himself on the right path, perhaps even humble and virtuous Holds a checklist in his heart of every wrong perpetrated against him Is quick to anger and stands vigil over his own rights making certain they are not transgressed Hangs on to his own opinions refusing to surrender to another viewpoint Takes pride in his own achievements. May even take pride in his spiritual progress Sees himself and the world as the be-all/end-all. His only pleasure is thus achieved through the world Uses the goods of the world to satisfy self Objects to every cross. Sees trials as a curse. Resents others' good fortune Prays only for himself and his own needs Cannot accept God's Will. Becomes bitter over trials |
Holy Love
Is motivated in every thought, word, and action by love of God, and neighbor as self
Sees himself full of imperfections. Is always seeking to be perfected through love. Considers everyone more humble and holy than himself Imitates Divine Mercy as best he can. Is compassionate and forgiving Is patient. Takes note of others' need and concerns Offers his own opinions but listens to others and lends them equal merit with his own Realizes all things proceed from God, that without God he is capable of no good thing. All good comes from grace Takes joy in storing up heavenly treasure, in growing closer to God and deeper in holiness. Knows the difference between earthly pleasures and spiritual joy Uses the goods of the world to satisfy quest for holiness Surrenders to the cross through love as Jesus did. Sees crossed as a grace to be used to convert others Prays for all in need Accepts God's Will with a loving heart even when difficult |